Author: Bela Friedman

The word “mojo” is said to have come from West African slaves and relates to magic and spells that generate power and good luck. Today the word mojo refers to a source of vigor, energy, sexual potency, and power.

If you are feeling depleted, overwhelmed, overworked, stressed-out, tired, bored or lethargic, you may have lost your mojo. And once you lose mojo, it can be challenging to find the motivation to reclaim it. You don’t want to remain in that mojo-less place for too long, or your lost mojo might mushroom into a full-blown depression.

You can begin to feel more energy and enthusiasm about yourself and all the world has to offer just by making some small life changes that will release the magic of your mojo.

I know what it’s like to lose mojo, but I’ve been able to reclaim it again and again: Living in a failed marriage, during a separation, as a single mom, financial crisis, being “laid off” from a job I needed but detested, losing my parents, recovering from a serious injury.  The list goes on and on, but the good news is that I’ve always been able to reclaim my mojo.  And so can you!

Here are five action steps to help you reclaim your mojo when you feel that it’s lost:

1. Address your stress and get unstuck.  If you feel overwhelmed — lighten your load and be aware of what is causing you stress. You may first feel stuck and that nothing is working for you, but if you shift your perspective your mojo will show up. Journaling is a great way to address the source of your stress. Write at least a paragraph on how you’d like your life to change, and believe it – and your mojo will show up.
2. Stay away from negativity. If you are serious about getting back on track you have to stay away from negativity. This includes toxic and negative people and negative talk.  Keeping a gratitude journal will do wonders for your attitude.
3. Have fun. Recall the things you did when you were younger that gave you joy.  Grab a pen and paper and write down the fun things you did and circle the things that you’d like to do again.  And start doing them!
4. Start with baby steps. It’s easy to be overwhelmed. But one small step can help restore your confidence. With one step at time you can conquer the unconquerable.
5. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. Sometimes the simple act of asking for help from a friend, coach or counselor can be the boost you need for getting your mojo back. Speaking to someone can help you remember that everyone needs help from time to time and that no one can do it alone.

Can you think of more ways to get your mojo back?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help get your mojo back and make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Many of us believe we already do. But our actions say otherwise.

From all of my life experiences and from the people that I’ve worked with individually, in workshops and in my Be Inspired Women’s Circles, I find that the only thing that truly heals our problems is to know how to love ourselves.

Louise Hay once said that when people learn how to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better in every way.  It’s a simple premise, but I totally agree.

When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s astounding how their lives get better. They feel better. They look better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.

Are you willing to take a brief self-love challenge?  Here are six ways you can learn to love yourself each day:

1. Be your own best friend.  What does that look like to you?
2. See all of your magnificence and beauty–the pretty and not so pretty parts.
3. Embrace the amazing and unique person you are.  There is only one you.
4. Love all of yourself.  This means also accepting your weaknesses and challenges.
5. Surround yourself with loving and positive people. No more toxic relationships.
6. Give forgiveness to yourself and others. You will feel much lighter.

Are there other ways you can show love to yourself?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you learn to love yourself and make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

How can you change your world for the better in only five to ten minutes?

In my opinion it starts by checking in with yourself every morning with a wonderful formula coined by Tony Robbins called priming. I have my own version of priming that I use and wanted to share with you.  I know that many of us may be lethargic in the morning or maybe rush through breakfast to start work and a very busy day.  But if you wake up only five to ten minutes early, you can make a difference in your day, your life and in your world.  Here’s how it works:

1. When you wake up, sit up in bed and begin to breathe very slowly in through your nose and out of your nose or mouth 20 times.
2. Have a notebook or journal next to your bed and write down three things you are grateful for.
3. Place your hand over your heart and visualize the sun’s light, energy and warmth covering you from the top of your head to the tips of your toes; then visualize the sun’s light, energy and warmth covering your loved ones; and then the sun’s light, energy and warmth covering the earth and all of its people and creatures.

That’s it. This quick exercise has proven to make a positive difference in my day and in my world — and I’m sure it can in yours as well. And who knows, maybe our high vibration in doing this simple exercise daily may make a positive change the entire world!

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Sending light and love,

Bela