The Transformative Power of Forgiveness.

Nelson Mandela’s profound quote, “When a deep injury is done to us, we never recover until we forgive,” underscores the transformative power of forgiveness. Holding onto resentment and anger after being wronged keeps us imprisoned in a cycle of pain. True healing and liberation come when we find the strength to forgive. It doesn’t condone the wrong but releases us from its grip, allowing us to move forward with newfound resilience. Mandela’s life exemplifies this, as he forgave his oppressors, catalyzing reconciliation and change in South Africa. In essence, forgiveness is the key to personal and societal recovery, offering the promise of a brighter future.

Mandela’s life story serves as an enduring testament to the redemptive power of forgiveness. By forgiving those who had imprisoned him for 27 years, he not only reclaimed his own humanity but also helped pave the way for a nation to heal and unite. In essence, Mandela’s quote reminds us that forgiveness is not just a gift we offer to others but a gift we give ourselves, as it is through forgiveness that we truly find our way to recovery and, ultimately, to peace.

How are you at forgiving?  Are you able to forgive those that have hurt you? Are you able to forgive yourself?

If you are having challenges with forgiving others, or even yourself, moving forward or letting go of your wounded inner child, please reach out to Bela Friedman at Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy. I give free consultations and offer Zoom and in-person life and energy coaching, relationship coaching and hypnotherapy sessions to meet your financial needs. I’m also certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ developed by Peggy Huddleston. Contact me for a free consultation at 503-939-2269 or You can learn more about my services at and

What is a Surgery Coach?

Hearing the words, “You have to have surgery” can be a frightening experience. But you don’t have to face it alone.  As your surgery coach, I will assist and guide you on the best way to prepare for surgery by learning mind-body techniques to reduce stress before surgery, use less pain medication and heal faster.

As a certified life coach, certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified in Peggy Huddleston’s Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ workshop, I will help you become a more relaxed and empowered patient through research proven mind-body techniques.  Hundreds of research studies have documented that people who prepare for surgery have less pain, fewer complications, take less pain meds and recover faster. 

The five-step Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster Program™ developed by Huddleston allows individuals to start the healing process by decreasing stress and developing a more positive attitude before, during and after surgery.

My inspiration to help others prepare for surgery was my own experience undergoing a total hip replacement. My “aha” moment came after reading Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster – a Guide to Body Mind Techniques by Huddleston. I followed the five-step mind-body program using visualization and healing statements among other empowering techniques. I not only felt peaceful and empowered before surgery, I used very little pain medication following surgery and recovered quickly. My surgeon and his staff were stunned at my quick recovery. I was so excited about my experience that I became certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster ™ program.

With this mind-body approach, I will guide you to enhance your healing as you prepare for any type of minor or major surgery or medical or dental procedure.

Expedite Your Healing With Surgery Coaching

Bela has assisted dozens of patients on the best way to prepare for surgery and recover faster, and she can help you as well. You will be empowered by learning mind-body techniques to reduce stress before surgery, use less pain medication and heal faster.

Bela is compassionate, intuitive, and fully trained and certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster Workshop™, created by Peggy Huddleston. Bela is also a certified life and energy coach and certified clinical hypnotherapist – and will help you become a more relaxed and confident patient through research-proven mind-body techniques. 

Check out what a recent client who underwent a knee replacement had to say about Bela’s coaching support.

Recover Faster with Surgery Coaching

If you or someone you know is struggling with cancer, read my recent client’s testimonial below for some inspiration on how working together supported their journey. The Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ program is designed to support you from preparation all the way through recovery. Contact me today if you’re interested in a free consultation to see how working together can support you on your healing journey.

Mind-Body Techniques Can Be Powerful Healing Tools

When Karena (not her real name) was diagnosed with a benign brain tumor and faced a very delicate surgery, she was terrified. Her daughter had called to ask if I could work with her weeks before surgery to reduce her mother’s anxiety. Through working with me Karena raised her energetic vibration with the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ protocol, developed by Peggy Huddleston. I not only helped her reduce anxiety with mind-body techniques so that she could visualize her complete healing as if was happening in the present, but also to create a support group of loving friends and family, and had the anesthesiologist say healing statements during the multi-hour surgery. I am happy to say that surgery was successful and she and her family were thrilled.  Here is her testimonial:

The Healing Power of the Mind is Amazing

George (not his real name) was diagnosed with lymphoma in the spring of 2021. I began my mind-body work with him just before his first chemotherapy session.  My work helped him reduce his anxiety by leading him in a workshop devoted to reducing his stress; visualizing his short and long-term healing as of its happening right now; surrounding himself with the love of others; listening to a relaxation recording twice daily; and reading Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ by Peggy Huddleston.  He made the wonderful shift from deep stress to peace and positivity. Happily, George has been cancer free for more than two years.

Here is his testimonial: 

The Benefits of Energy Coaching

My clients learn to heal, restore, and empower their energy. You have a divine gift and resource within your being. Through energy coaching with me you will learn to:

  • Ground your energy in your body and in connection with earth element.
  • Practice somatic meditation techniques that include breathing, energy exercises, and movement.
  • Allow your Higher Self to be fully experienced.
  • Expand your awareness, focus, and attention skills.
  • Know your own healthy power and wisdom.
  • Align your intentions with your actions to live in purpose.
  • Learn to self-regulate your nervous system and reduce stress.
  • Feel your emotions with acceptance and kindness.
  • Release yourself from unhealthy communication and relationship patterns.
  • Heal blocks and let go of stuck energy.
  • Connect with your inner resources of nature, archetypes, grace, light, guides, angels, and ancestors.
  • Experience guided meditation journeys that help you receive your own intuitive wisdom.
  • Communicate and transform beliefs, issues, and energy with healing metaphors.
  • Bring your own healing energy to your body, mind and spirit through all parts of your life and time.
  • Expand connection, love, and relaxation with family members and friends.
  • Create healthy boundaries for clarity and purpose.

Valentine’s Day Quick Tips on Self-Love and Self-Care

Today is Valentine’s Day – and it’s time to practice self-love and self-care. Being good to yourself is what’s important. You may feel down because you are alone, or maybe you have a partner but still feel lonely and/or unloved. Whether you are alone or not, self-love and self-care are what is important. Here’s a short list to boost your mood:

  1. Pamper yourself: Book a massage, have your nails done, get a facial.
  2. Prepare your favorite dinner complete with candles and your best dishes.
  3. Read a book for pleasure.
  4. Take a walk in nature and be mindful.
  5. Watch a good movie.
  6. If it’s cold and rainy out, turn on your favorite music and have a dance party with yourself or a partner.
  7. Most of all, be grateful for what you have.

Remember that it all begins with loving yourself first! As a life and energy coach, the place I begin with is you – the individual – your personality — your dreams and passions – and your heart’s true desires! 

Please share these tips with someone you care about. And if you are having challenges letting go of your critical thinking, please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offer Zoom and in-person life coaching, relationship coaching and hypnotherapy sessions to meet your financial needs. I am also certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ developed by Peggy Huddleston. Contact me for a free 45-minute consultation at 503-939-2269 or You can learn more about my services at

Wishing you a wonderful Valentine’s Day!