A Mother’s Day Love Note

I’m sending you all a Mother’s Day love note — if you are a mother or not. We all need to feel love and warmth a little more these days. I was inspired to send you these wonderful words from Messages from the Angels by Dawn Lianna.

You are cherished. You are a precious child of the universe and you are cherished just because. Without lifting a finger, you are cherished. You are cherished and loved.

Be good to yourself today. Self-care is important.

This is a different type of Mother’s Day, and it may be difficult time for many. But remember that what we are going through is only temporary. Remember to breathe. We will get through this pandemic as we will enter a new normal in the not too distant future. No one really knows how to navigate what we are all going through. Staying safe, taking care of yourself and your loved ones at home is enough.

 If you are having issues with stress, confidence or fear please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offering Zoom and phone life coaching and hypnotherapy session on a sliding scale to meet your financial needs.

Sent with love,

Bela Friedman

A Few Announcements

Dear Be Inspired Community,

I hope this message finds you and your families all healthy and doing well.  We’ve all been going through the challenge of living through a pandemic, but are also experiencing beautiful growth, inspiration and learning as we face the unknown — if we feel it or not.

I’m kicking off May with a few announcements:

  1. Save the date for our upcoming online Be Inspired Women’s Circle on Zoom Saturday, May 16, 1-2:30 pm. Please remember to sign up for a free Zoom account if you haven’t already. The Circle’s agenda will include an inspiring or fun topic, sharing in conversation, journaling, and I’ll be giving a guided meditation to help take your minds off the current situation. I hope you will attend. There is a $10 fee and you can pay via PayPal or check. If you have any questions please let me know. Please RSVP before May 15.
  1. I’m excited to announce that I just received my certification in Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster- A guide to body-mind techniques workshopThis incredible program is for anyone planning on having surgery, a surgical procedure, and anyone with anxiety or insomnia. This hour-long workshop is done on the phone or Zoom. I’m a huge believer in this program. When I had my hip replacement surgery in December it helped me recover faster, take less pain meds and feel more relaxed before during and after surgery. It also helped me be empowered with the hospital, surgeon and anesthesiologist. If you have any questions or would like to participate, please contact me. The workshop cost is $95.
  1. If you or a friend are in need of emotional support in any way, let me know. I’m here to help. I offer a free 30-minute consultation and sliding scale to fit all budgets and needs.

Sending love and light,

Bela Friedman

Are you feeling anxious today about the coronavirus? Here’s how to boost your mood right now.

If you are feeling anxious, having a hard day or just uncertain and scared about the unknown — here is what you can do today to feel better right now:

1. Be grateful. Look around you and find what is right and what is working. There are more things in your life that are right than out of control. Praise them. Intentionally make mental and written lists of how all your needs are met and how life is taking care of you. Whatever the fear, counter it with gratitude. If you are worried about your health, make lists of all the parts of your body that are healthy and functioning well. If you are worried about the economy, praise all the ways that your needs have been met and how you are always taken care of. Give thanks. You can only hold one thought at a time in your mind. Choose gratitude over worry.

2. Move. Whatever you can do to move, do it. Movement is therapy. Do yoga, dance at home, go to the gym, go for a walk, go for a run, just move, especially if you don’t feel like it. You will thank yourself once you are done.

3. Be selective in the news you consume. Please stay informed. Be educated on how to stay safe and healthy. But please remember that watching and reading the news non-stop is addictive and will keep you in panic and fear. Now more than ever it is important that you consume things that are uplifting and make you laugh.

4. Use your imagination and manifest the good.  Use your creative power and the power of prayer for good. See the world calm. The panic turning into a sigh of relief. The coronavirus disappearing. People being healthy and happy. Children laughing. The elderly thriving as they share their wisdom. The economy booming. Airports filled with people ready for adventures. You are that powerful. You and I together can make an impact.

5. Talk about your feelings. Don’t bottle it up. Express how you feel. But choose your confidant wisely. Let it be a person who will uplift you. A person who will empathically get you but not bury you under an avalanche of their own fears and leave you even more desperate than how they found you. Reach out to me. I am here for you.

6. Breathe slowly and deeply. Here is my favorite mantra when going through hard times: Breathe in faith, breathe out fear.

Email me at bela@belacoaching.com if you want us to work together to bring you emotional support and balance.

Sending you oceans of peace, health and love.

Bela Friedman

Valentine’s Day Quick Tips on Self-Love and Self-Care

Valentine’s Day is just a few days away – and it’s time to practice self-love and self-care. Being good to yourself is what’s important. You may feel down because you are alone, or maybe you have a partner but still feel lonely and/or unloved. Whether you are alone or not, self-love and self-care are what is important. Here’s a short list to boost your mood:

  1. Pamper yourself: Book a massage, have your nails done, get a facial.
  2. Prepare your favorite dinner complete with candles and your best dishes.
  3. Read a book for pleasure.
  4. Take a walk in nature and be mindful.
  5. Watch a good movie.
  6. If it’s cold and rainy out, turn on your favorite music and have a dance party with yourself or a partner.
  7. Most of all, be grateful for what you have.

Remember that it all begins with loving yourself first! As a life coach, the place I begin with is you – the individual – your personality — your dreams and passions – and your heart’s true desires! 

From Sight to Vision

I led a wonderful women’s circle recently based on a beautiful article from the Daily OM – one of my favorite websites that sends daily words of wisdom written by a very talented Madisyn Taylor.
Briefly, it stated, “Sight is the ability to see the physical world, while vision is the gift of seeing beyond it. Anyone who has lost their eyesight can tell you there are things that are clearer when you cannot see the world through your eyes. One of the reasons many meditation instructors advise sitting with eyes closed is because we automatically become more in touch with our inner world when we aren’t distracted by the outer world.”
The article went on to say that those of us with perfect eyesight will generally lose some of the acuity, but that this loss is usually replaced with inner vision.
To me, inner vision and trusting my intuition go hand in hand. When I was younger, I struggled developing inner vision. I just didn’t trust myself, nor was I ready to listen to my intuition. I did what I thought I was supposed to do. I had difficulties in high school and college, was in some destructive and toxic relationships, and had a difficult first marriage. It was only as I grew older that I allowed my vision to blossom into my soul’s purpose. I finally started believing and trusting in myself. I became accountable to fulfill what was pulling at my heart strings. When my successful 30-year career in public relations wasn’t giving me joy, I listened to the universe and ultimately created a new vision and passion for my life: To help others one on one. Once I made the decision to become certified in life coaching and hypnotherapy my inner vision guided me to help others make positive changes in their lives. And I’m so glad it did!
What can you do to move from sight to vision?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you get unstuck and make long term, positive changes in your life, contact me at bela@belacoaching.com; You can leave a message at 503-848-3640. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Getting unstuck

Fall is fast approaching – and it’s a time for moving forward.  But how can you move forward if you are feeling stuck? You may be stuck in a bad relationship, stuck in an unfulfilling job, stuck in bad health or pain – or stuck in a negative frame of mind.

What really keeps us from getting unstuck are the limited beliefs we may have and held on to for years. Do you ever hear yourself say any of the following: This is how I was raised, and that’s how I am … I’ll never be happy … I’ll never have enough money … There are no jobs out there for me… I’m too old to change… This kind of critical thinking is all just a mindset. Change is possible and it can be yours if you are open to it.
Like most people, I’ve been stuck many times in my life.  In a difficult marriage, in an unfulfilling public relations business, and stuck in bed with three hairline fractures of my pelvis after a bad fall.

But one experience that really stands out is when I turned 66 and was dreading my next birthday because I was sure the end was near for me. Fortunately, I went to my naturopath for a routine visit and told her I felt that I would die when I turned 67. After all, my mother died of cancer at 67 and my father died of a heart attack at age 61. And I felt that I would be next to go.  My naturopath sat back slowly in her chair and looked at me sternly and said: “You need to rewrite your script!”

Somehow her words resonated with me at that moment. So, when I returned home I actually rewrote my script, my life story. I wrote that I would live to be 100 years old. And If I was going to live for 33 more years, I wanted to spend my time working at something more meaningful that had purpose, and was heart felt where I could help others. So, I decided to leave public relations and become a certified life coach and certified clinical hypnotherapist.  That change of attitude transformed my life, and that’s how I became unstuck.
Changing your body language.
Being stuck can paralyze you emotionally and physically. The quickest way to move forward is to change your stuck state by changing your body language. If you are stuck and in a state of negativity – how does your body look? How does it feel?Are your shoulders and arms slumped? Is your breathing shallow?Are you speaking in a low voice?When you are in a happy and powerful state, arms and shoulders are back, you speak louder and are self-assured. 

A quick exercise:  Stand in your power.
To get unstuck quickly you need to change your body language and stand in your power.  Stand up like the wonder that you are! Hands on your waist, legs apart, shoulders back, chest out, looking forward. Breathe slowly and deeply. Take a slow, deep breath in, and let it out slowly.  Take another slow, deep breath in and let it out slowly.  Now, in your most confident voice say loudly:

Remember that when you are stuck in a state of being sad, frustrated and/or depressed, you can’t be resourceful. Take a power stance. Also breathe, meditate, pray, take a walk, write down your gratitude, rewrite your script. You will begin to experience some powerful changes.

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you get unstuck and make long term, positive changes in your life, contact me at bela@belacoaching.com; You can leave a message at 503-848-3640. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Getting your mojo back

The word “mojo” is said to have come from West African slaves and relates to magic and spells that generate power and good luck. Today the word mojo refers to a source of vigor, energy, sexual potency, and power.

If you are feeling depleted, overwhelmed, overworked, stressed-out, tired, bored or lethargic, you may have lost your mojo. And once you lose mojo, it can be challenging to find the motivation to reclaim it. You don’t want to remain in that mojo-less place for too long, or your lost mojo might mushroom into a full-blown depression.

You can begin to feel more energy and enthusiasm about yourself and all the world has to offer just by making some small life changes that will release the magic of your mojo.

I know what it’s like to lose mojo, but I’ve been able to reclaim it again and again: Living in a failed marriage, during a separation, as a single mom, financial crisis, being “laid off” from a job I needed but detested, losing my parents, recovering from a serious injury.  The list goes on and on, but the good news is that I’ve always been able to reclaim my mojo.  And so can you!

Here are five action steps to help you reclaim your mojo when you feel that it’s lost:

  1. Address your stress and get unstuck.  If you feel overwhelmed — lighten your load and be aware of what is causing you stress. You may first feel stuck and that nothing is working for you, but if you shift your perspective your mojo will show up. Journaling is a great way to address the source of your stress. Write at least a paragraph on how you’d like your life to change, and believe it – and your mojo will show up.
  2. Stay away from negativity. If you are serious about getting back on track you have to stay away from negativity. This includes toxic and negative people and negative talk.  Keeping a gratitude journal will do wonders for your attitude.
  3. Have fun. Recall the things you did when you were younger that gave you joy.  Grab a pen and paper and write down the fun things you did and circle the things that you’d like to do again.  And start doing them!
  4. Start with baby steps. It’s easy to be overwhelmed. But one small step can help restore your confidence. With one step at time you can conquer the unconquerable.
  5. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. Sometimes the simple act of asking for help from a friend, coach or counselor can be the boost you need for getting your mojo back. Speaking to someone can help you remember that everyone needs help from time to time and that no one can do it alone.

Can you think of more ways to get your mojo back?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help get your mojo back and make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Learning to love yourself

Many of us believe we already do. But our actions say otherwise.

From all of my life experiences and from the people that I’ve worked with individually, in workshops and in my Be Inspired Women’s Circles, I find that the only thing that truly heals our problems is to know how to love ourselves.

Louise Hay once said that when people learn how to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better in every way.  It’s a simple premise, but I totally agree.

When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s astounding how their lives get better. They feel better. They look better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.

Are you willing to take a brief self-love challenge?  Here are six ways you can learn to love yourself each day:

  1. Be your own best friend.  What does that look like to you?
  2. See all of your magnificence and beauty–the pretty and not so pretty parts.
  3. Embrace the amazing and unique person you are.  There is only one you.
  4. Love all of yourself.  This means also accepting your weaknesses and challenges.
  5. Surround yourself with loving and positive people. No more toxic relationships.
  6. Give forgiveness to yourself and others. You will feel much lighter.

Are there other ways you can show love to yourself?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you learn to love yourself and make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Change your world in five minutes

How can you change your world for the better in only five to ten minutes?

In my opinion it starts by checking in with yourself every morning with a wonderful formula coined by Tony Robbins called priming. I have my own version of priming that I use and wanted to share with you.  I know that many of us may be lethargic in the morning or maybe rush through breakfast to start work and a very busy day.  But if you wake up only five to ten minutes early, you can make a difference in your day, your life and in your world.  Here’s how it works:

  1. When you wake up, sit up in bed and begin to breathe very slowly in through your nose and out of your nose or mouth 20 times.
  2. Have a notebook or journal next to your bed and write down three things you are grateful for.
  3. Place your hand over your heart and visualize the sun’s light, energy and warmth covering you from the top of your head to the tips of your toes; then visualize the sun’s light, energy and warmth covering your loved ones; and then the sun’s light, energy and warmth covering the earth and all of its people and creatures.

That’s it. This quick exercise has proven to make a positive difference in my day and in my world — and I’m sure it can in yours as well. And who knows, maybe our high vibration in doing this simple exercise daily may make a positive change the entire world!

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Sending light and love,