Bela Friedman | Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy

Quick Self-Care Tips When you are Feeling Election Anxiety

If you are feeling election anxiety, or the day after-election anxiety, you are not alone. I’ve been dealing with this for some time. Here are some self-care tips that have helped me, and I know they will help you as well:

Take a social media break.
Limit your news intake.
Take a walk in nature.
Meditate or find another mindful practice.
Go to bed early.
Don’t check the news on your cell phone in the middle of the night.
Watch only happy TV.
Take a mental health day.
Exercise daily.
Remember that all things pass.

Let me know if you have any questions. And if you know someone who can benefit from this note, please pass it along.

If you are having issues with stress, confidence, fear, personal or professional development, please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offer Zoom and in-person life coaching, relationship coaching and hypnotherapy sessions to meet your financial needs. I’m also certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ developed by Peggy Huddleston.

Sending much love and peace,

Bela

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Dissolving Fear

Many people I’ve talked to lately are filled with fear. Fear about our divided country struggling with politics, an economic crisis, violence, social and racial injustices, the war in Ukraine and COVID. It is a lot to deal with. But one thing is certain: We have to learn to live together in love, peace and harmony.

I truly believe that we are on the verge of a new era of enlightenment – and its arrival will be in the not-too-distant future. For now, we all have to remember that we have the opportunity to choose love over fear. Love for ourselves and others.

But how do we combat our fears? One way is to remember that the sun is always shining–even though the clouds may obscure it for a while. Here’s a short writing from Louise Hay about fear that can help:

“As the fears come, I choose to see them as passing clouds in the sky, and I let them go on their way. I am not my fears…I know that what we do in our hearts is very important, so I begin every day in a silent connection with my heart. When I feel afraid, I let the love dissolve the fear.”

If you are having issues with fear, confidence or stress please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offering in-person, Zoom and phone coaching and hypnotherapy sessions on a sliding scale to meet your financial needs.

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21-Days of Gratitude Challenge

Dear Be Inspired Community,

I wanted to reach out to you before Thanksgiving to offer a 21- Days of Gratitude Challenge, sponsored by the American Heart Association. The purpose of this challenge is to help you become the very best version of yourself. If you are looking for a way to enhance your happiness and health, then give the 21-Days of Gratitude Challenge a try. Research shows that when you practice daily gratitude, you will enhance your happiness, strengthen your immune system, and improve your satisfaction for every moment.

Are you up for the challenge? You can start today! It’s simple and easy. Here are the guidelines.

Let me know if you have any questions.

With gratitude I’m sending you blessings for an abundant increase in health, love and prosperity.

Sending love and peace,

Bela

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Getting Unstuck

Fall is here – and it’s a time for moving forward. But how can you move forward if you are feeling stuck? You may be stuck in a bad relationship, stuck in an unfulfilling job, stuck in bad health or pain – or stuck in a negative frame of mind.

What really keeps us from getting unstuck are the limited beliefs we may have and held on to for years. Do you ever hear yourself say any of the following: This is how I was raised, and that’s how I am … I’ll never be happy … I’ll never have enough money … There are no jobs out there for me… I’m too old to change… This kind of critical thinking is all just a mindset. Change is possible and it can be yours if you are open to it.

Like most people, I’ve been stuck many times in my life. In a difficult marriage, in an unfulfilling public relations business, and stuck in bed with three hairline fractures of my pelvis after a bad fall.

But one experience that really stands out is when I turned 66 and was dreading my next birthday because I was sure the end was near for me. Fortunately, I went to my naturopath for a routine visit and told her I felt that I would die when I turn 67. After all, my mother died of cancer at 67 and my father died of a heart attack at age 61. And I felt that I would be next to go. My naturopath sat back slowly in her chair and looked at me sternly and said: “You need to rewrite your script!”

Somehow her words resonated with me at that moment. So, when I returned home I actually rewrote my script, my life story. I wrote that I would live to be 100 years old. And If I was going to live for 33 more years, I wanted to spend my time working at something more meaningful that had purpose, and was heart felt where I could help others. So, I decided to leave public relations and become a certified life coach and certified clinical hypnotherapist. That change of attitude transformed my life, and that’s how I became unstuck.

Changing your body language.

Being stuck can paralyze you emotionally and physically. The quickest way to move forward is to change your stuck state by changing your body language. If you are stuck and in a state of negativity – how does your body look? How does it feel?

Are your shoulders and arms slumped?
Is your breathing shallow?
Are you speaking in a low voice?
When you are in a happy and powerful state, arms and shoulders are back, you speak louder and are self-assured.

A quick exercise: Stand in your power.

To get unstuck quickly you need to change your body language and stand in your power. Stand up like the wonder that you are! Hands on your waist, legs apart, shoulders back, chest out, looking forward. Breathe slowly and deeply. Take a slow, deep breath in, and let it out slowly. Take another slow, deep breath in and let it out slowly. Now, in your most confident voice say loudly: I AM POWERFUL! I AM POWERFUL! I AM POWERFUL!

Remember that when you are in a stuck state of being sad, frustrated and/or depressed, you can’t be resourceful. Take a power stance. Also breathe, meditate, pray, take a walk, write down your gratitude, rewrite your script. You will begin to experience some powerful changes.

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you get unstuck and make long term, positive changes in your life, contact me at bela@belacoaching.com; You can leave a message at 503-848-3640. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

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How Can Surgery Coaching Help Me?

Make A Change With Bela Life Coaching And Hypnotherapy

Are you in a period of transition in your personal life or at work? Are you uncertain how to move forward? Do you find yourself longing for guidance? If your answer to these questions is yes, contact Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy. I’m Bela, and I’m committed to helping my clients achieve positive growth through my life coaching and hypnotherapy services. Allow Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy to help you today.

Get Prepared For Surgery With Help From The Surgery Coach

One of the many services I offer through Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy is help as a surgery coach. Surgery can be a daunting and frightening concept for many, and going into surgery unprepared can only make you feel worse. If you would like professional guidance as you prepare for your surgery, don’t hesitate to contact me for my surgery coaching services.

How Does Surgery Coaching Help?

It’s all about preparation. As your surgery coach, I use my skills as a certified life coach, certified clinical hypnotherapist as well as research-proven mind-body techniques to help you become more relaxed and empowered. The main goals of my surgery coaching services are to help my clients:

Feel less stress before surgery
Use less pain medication following surgery
Heal faster after surgery

What Kinds Of Procedures Can The Surgery Coach Help Me Prepare For?

I am prepared to help my clients prepare for different types of surgeries and procedures, including:

Minor Surgeries
Major Surgeries
Medical Procedures
Chemotherapy
Dental Procedures

Seek The Guidance You Need Through Bela Life Coaching. Bela’s Other Services Include:

Stress management
Personal and career development
Eliminating sabotaging behaviors
Improved self-confidence
Achieving success
Increased motivation
Overcoming phobias and fears
Improving relationships
Weight management
Chronic pain management
Smoking cessation
Enjoying a more satisfying life

Contact Bela Life Coaching And Hypnotherapy Today

As a certified life coach and hypnotherapist, I’m eager to help my clients create positive changes in their lives that are long-term and sustainable. I am committed to your growth. In addition to having my certification both as certified life coach and certified clinical hypnotherapist, I am also certified to deliver the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ workshop created by Peggy Huddleston. To learn more about how I can help you make a positive change in your life, contact me for a free 30-minute consultation. You can also call me at 503-848-3640 or email bela@belacoaching.com.

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GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION TO HAVE MORE FUN

Do you make time to be playful and have fun?

Being playful is easy when we are children, but as we become adults, and go through difficult challenges in our lives, a serious side takes over. Some of us have had difficult, challenging childhoods, while others had wonderful and delightful childhoods. But today, it really doesn’t matter. Playfulness brings joy, and what better feeling can we bring today than joy within ourselves!

I can’t say that my childhood was an easy one. My parents didn’t get along and unfortunately, things were not light-hearted in my young world. But fortunately, I married someone who is very playful… and that was one of the things that drew me to him. He is a great “fun” role model, and being playful is one of the wonderful things he has taught me.

Here is a portion of a short article, “Playfulness Brings Joy,” written by Madyson Taylor, founder of the Daily OM website:

“When we approach our lives with a spirit of fun and liveliness, our interactions provide us with a satisfying sense of pleasure. Even though it may seem that joking around or playing is not a mature way to be, when we do this, we are aligning ourselves much more closely with our true spirit. This type of energy allows us to be much more aware of each moment and content with how we spend our time with others. Letting yourself play, joke, and laugh unabashedly will fill today with happiness and wonder.”

Bela Life Coaching Can Help You Learn to Have More Fun

Research shows that being playful is a key way to get more out of life. Even though we are busy with everyday responsibilities and schedules, it’s important to make time for play and leisure.

Here are 10 examples I’ve shared with clients for having fun and being playful:

Sing and dance just for the fun of it.
Spend time with the children in your life, observing them as they play, listening to their conversation, and following their train of thought.
Cultivate a happy, joyful, positive attitude, full of gratitude for even the smallest, everyday things.
Plan to make play part of your day, whether it is indoor or outdoor, solo or social, active or quiet.
Try face & finger painting.
Try lip-synching. Turn off the sound on your TV and make up the dialogues yourself.
Watch funny movies.
Watch the moon and stars come out. Say “aaaaaaa” and “oooooo” a lot.
Wear two different colored shoes or socks (dare to be different).
Adopt a pet.

Now it’s your turn. Take out a journal or piece of paper and write about the things you like to do to be playful and have fun… or, write about the things you would like to do to be playful and have fun. Don’t overthink it.

What is Life Coaching?

The life coaching process is about identifying where you are now, where you would like to be, and then closing that gap.

My name is Bela, and as your life coach my goal is to help you achieve all that’s mentioned above. Through Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy, I’ve helped many clients achieve their personal and professional goals. I am a certified life coach as well as a certified clinical hypnotherapist. Need help with stress management, self-confidence or career development? I can help with that and more. Through Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy, I can help you achieve long-term, sustainable, positive change(s).

Contact Bela Certified Life Coach

As a certified life coach located in Beaverton, just west of Portland, Oregon, I’m eager to help my clients create positive changes in their lives that are long-term and sustainable. As a personal development coach, I am committed to your growth. In addition to having my certifications both as a life coach and as a clinical hypnotherapist, I am also certified to deliver Peggy Huddleston’s Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ workshop. To learn more about how I can help you make a positive change in your life, contact me for a free 30-minute consultation. You can also call me at 503-848-3640 or email bela@belacoaching.com.

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Increase Your Motivation With Bela Life Coaching & Hypnotherapy

What is Life Coaching?

The life coaching process is about identifying where you are now, where you would like to be, and then closing that gap.

Do You Struggle With A Lack Of Motivation?

Perhaps you are anticipating a change in your life. You may recognize something you need to change or something you need to work towards, yet find yourself lacking the motivation to actively seek that change. Finding that spark of motivation seems like it could solve all your problems, but you simply don’t know how to manage that.

Bela Life Coaching Helps Increase Your Motivation

As your life coach, it is my job to help each client identify the challenges they face and turn those challenges into victories. When you sign up for life coaching services through Bela Life Coaching, you’re taking the first step to maximize your personal and professional potential.

Life Coaching Services In Beaverton, OR

If you live or work in the Beaverton area and are looking for life coaching services near you, look no further than Bela Life Coaching. Bela Life Coaching in Beaverton is here for you.

Seek the Guidance You Need Through Bela Life Coaching.

My life coaching services include:

• Stress management

• Personal and career development

• Eliminating sabotaging behaviors

• Improved self-confidence

• Achieving success

• Increased motivation

• Overcoming phobias and fears

• Weight management

• Chronic pain management

• Smoking cessation

• Enjoying a more satisfying life

Contact Bela Certified Life Coach

As a certified life coach located in Beaverton, just west of Portland Oregon, I’m eager to help my clients create positive changes in their lives that are long-term and sustainable. As a personal development coach, I am committed to your growth. In addition to having my certification(s) both as a life coach and as a clinical hypnotherapist, I am also certified to deliver Peggy Huddelston’s Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ workshop. To learn more about how I can help you make a positive change in your life, contact me for a free 30-minute consultation. You can also call me at 503-848-3640 or email bela@belacoaching.com.

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The Mystics Realm: Mind/Body Techniques for Healing, Recovery, and Life Changes

Don’t miss Bela’s interview with the two lovely hosts of The Mystics Realm podcast recently, Ginger Ross and Trina Krug. She was asked to discuss her work in Mind Body Techniques for Healing, Recovery, and Life Changes and also give her perspective on her work as a life coach, hypnotherapist, and her unique view on preparing for surgery, healing faster, and recovery with less pain meds as The Surgery Coach. Listen to Episode 20 – Mind Body Techniques for Healing, Recovery, and Life Changes here.

Enjoy!

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Learning to Love Yourself

From all of my life experiences and from the people that I’ve worked with individually, in workshops and in my Be Inspired Women’s Circles, I find that the only thing that truly heals our problems is to know how to love ourselves.

Louise Hay once said that when people learn how to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better in every way. It’s a simple premise,and I totally agree.

When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s astounding how their lives get better. They feel better. They look better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.

Are you willing to take a brief self-love challenge? Here are six ways you can learn to love yourself each day:

Be your own best friend. What does that look like to you?
See all of your magnificence and beauty–the pretty and not so pretty parts.
Embrace the amazing and unique person you are. There is only one you.
Love all of yourself. This means also accepting your weaknesses and challenges.
Surround yourself with loving and positive people. No more toxic relationships.
Give forgiveness to yourself and others. You will feel much lighter.

Are there other ways you can show love to yourself?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you learn to love yourself and make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

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Reclaiming Your Mojo

Many of us are feeling anxious and depleted. Anxious about our country struggling with crazy politics, a divided country, the war in Ukraine, covid still effecting us, economic crisis, violence, social and racial injustices, and more. It is a lot to deal with. But one thing is certain: We have to learn to live together in love, peace and harmony.

And by feeling anxious, we often don’t feel like ourselves. Many of us feel like we’ve lost something. And some call this “Losing your mojo.”

What is mojo? It’s a word that is derived from African languages and relates to magic and spells to generate luck and power. Today, the word mojo still refers to a source of vigor, energy, sexual potency and power.

Have you ever lost your mojo? If you are feeling depleted, overwhelmed, overworked, stressed-out, tired, bored or lethargic,

You can begin to feel more energy and enthusiasm about yourself and all the world has to offer just by making some small life changes that will release the magic of your mojo.

I know what it’s like to lose mojo, but I’ve been able to reclaim it again and again: Living in a failed marriage, during a separation, as a single mom, financial crisis, being “laid off” from a job I needed but detested, losing my parents, recovering from a serious injury, surgeries. The list goes on and on, but the good news is that I’ve always been able to reclaim my mojo. And so can you!

Here are five action steps to help you reclaim your mojo when you feel that it’s lost:

Address your stress and get unstuck. If you feel overwhelmed or just stuck, you can lighten your load and be aware of what is causing you stress. Journaling is a great way to address the source of your stress. Write at least a paragraph on how you’d like your life to change, and believe it – and your mojo will show up.
Stay away from negativity. If you are serious about getting back on track you have to stay away from negativity. This includes toxic and negative people and negative talk. Keeping a gratitude journal will do wonders for your attitude.
Have fun. Recall the things you did when you were younger that gave you joy. Grab a pen and paper and write down the fun things you did and circle the things that you’d like to do again. And start doing them!
Start with baby steps. It’s easy to be overwhelmed. But one small step can help restore your confidence. With one step at a time you can conquer the unconquerable.
Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. Sometimes the simple act of asking for help from a friend, coach or counselor can be the boost you need for getting your mojo back. Speaking to someone can help you remember that everyone needs help from time to time and that no one can do it alone.

Can you think of more ways to get your mojo back?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help get your mojo back and make long-term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.