Do you know how to navigate political differences? Here is a guide to peaceful conversations with family member or friend.

In today’s polarized world, political differences can often strain even the closest relationships. Political arguments can leave you upset and frustrated. Here are some strategies anyone can use to maintain peace while respecting each other’s views.

  • Set Boundaries: It is essential to establish clear boundaries around political discussions. Politely but firmly, let your friend or loved one know that you value your relationship more than political debates and would prefer to avoid those topics.
  • Practice Active Listening: When political discussions do arise, focus on listening to understand rather than respond. This approach can reduce the intensity of arguments and foster more constructive conversations.
  • Agree to Disagree: It’s okay to acknowledge that you have different views. Agreeing to disagree without trying to change each other’s minds can help maintain harmony.
  • Focus on Common Ground: Find topics that you both enjoy discussing, such as family, hobbies, or other shared interests. Strengthening your relationship in other areas can help bridge the gap created by political differences.
  • Manage Emotional Triggers: Stay calm during conversations by practicing deep breathing or mindfulness techniques. This can prevent emotions from escalating and help you maintain control.
  • Communicate Respectfully: Use “I” statements to express your feelings (e.g., “I feel upset when we argue about politics”) rather than blaming or accusing. This keeps the conversation respectful and more productive.
  • Seek Support: Remember, you’re not alone. Sharing your experiences in a support group can provide comfort, understanding, and advice from others who face similar challenges.

By applying these strategies, it’s possible to navigate political differences with respect and understanding, keeping your relationships strong even when your views don’t align.

For more information on how you can maintain peace and respect in these polarized and crazy times, contact Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy at bela@belacoaching or call 503-939-2269.

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Having Sleep Issues? Bela Life Coaching Can Help.

A good night’s sleep is crucial for maintaining both mental and physical health. Sleep is not just a time for rest but a vital period during which the body and mind rejuvenate, repair, and prepare for the challenges of the next day.

Here’s why quality sleep is so important:

  • Mental Clarity and Focus: A good night’s sleep enhances cognitive functions such as memory, concentration, and problem-solving. Lack of sleep can lead to confusion, forgetfulness, and difficulty in making decisions.
  • Emotional Balance: Sleep helps regulate emotions, making it easier to manage stress, anxiety, and mood swings. Poor sleep can exacerbate feelings of irritability and even contribute to depression.
  • Physical Health: Quality sleep supports the immune system, reduces the risk of chronic illnesses like heart disease and diabetes, and promotes faster recovery from illness or injury.

How Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy Can Help You:

At Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy, we understand the profound impact that sleep has on overall well-being. Our tailored approach can help you achieve the restorative sleep your body and mind need. Here’s how we can assist:

  • Personalized Coaching: We work with you to identify and address the root causes of your sleep issues, whether they stem from stress, anxiety, or lifestyle habits. Together, we’ll develop a plan that promotes better sleep hygiene and overall wellness.
  • Hypnotherapy for Relaxation: Through guided hypnotherapy sessions, we help you relax deeply, release tension, and quiet the mind, paving the way for a peaceful night’s sleep. This natural, drug-free approach can significantly improve the quality of your sleep.
  • Ongoing Support: We provide continuous support and tools to help you maintain healthy sleep patterns. Our goal is to empower you to enjoy the benefits of regular, restful sleep and wake up feeling refreshed and ready to take on the day.

For more information on how you can get a better night’s sleep, contact Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy at bela@belacoaching or call 503-939-2269.

Wishing you a good night’s sleep!

As a parent with adult children, do you know the line between helping and enabling?

Balancing between helping and enabling adult children can be challenging. Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy offers guidelines to help distinguish between the two:

Helping

  • Providing Support and Encouragement: Offer emotional support and encouragement for their goals and efforts.
  • Teaching Skills: Help them learn skills that will foster independence, such as budgeting, cooking, or job searching.
  • Setting Boundaries: Clearly define what kind of help you are willing to provide and stick to those boundaries.
  • Encouraging Responsibility: Support them in taking responsibility for their actions and decisions.
  • Offering Guidance: Provide advice and guidance when asked, but let them make their own decisions.
  • Providing Temporary Financial Assistance: If necessary, offer short-term financial help with a clear plan for repayment or steps towards self-sufficiency.

Enabling

  • Removing Consequences: Constantly bailing them out of difficult situations or protecting them from the consequences of their actions.
  • Over-involvement: Taking over their responsibilities or making decisions for them.
  • Unconditional Financial Support: Providing ongoing financial support without any expectations or plans for them to become independent.
  • Ignoring Problems: Overlooking or denying issues such as substance abuse, lack of motivation, or other harmful behaviors.
  • Making Excuses: Justifying their lack of effort or poor decisions instead of encouraging them to improve.
  • Sacrificing Your Well-being: Neglecting your own needs and well-being to continually support them.

Key Considerations

  • Assess Their Needs vs. Wants: Determine if the support is genuinely necessary for their well-being or if it is a want that they should be managing on their own.
  • Encourage Problem-Solving: Instead of solving problems for them, encourage them to think through and find solutions.
  • Promote Independence: Aim to help them develop the skills and confidence needed to become independent.
  • Set Clear Expectations: Communicate your expectations clearly and consistently regarding their progress towards independence.
  • Seek Professional Guidance: If you are unsure, consider seeking advice from a life coach, therapist or counselor to navigate the balance between helping and enabling.

By focusing on empowerment and fostering independence, you can support your adult children effectively without enabling dependency.

If you are having issues with your adult child, or letting go of critical thoughts, please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offer Zoom and in-person life and energy coaching, relationship coaching, group coaching and much more to meet your financial needs. I’m also certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ developed by Peggy Huddleston. Contact me for a free consultation at 503-939-2269 or bela@belacoaching.com.

Are You Experiencing Anxiety, Fear or Insomnia? I Can Help.

There are many ways Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy in Beaverton, Oregon can help you learn to release the stress you are experiencing and help boost your mood today.

I combine the practice of life and energy coaching, hypnotherapy, guided visualization, EFT (tapping) and other tools that can empower individuals with remarkable results by engaging both the conscious and unconscious minds. I will identify the resources you need to help you overcome the stress.

If you need help right away here are ways to cope with stress today:

  • Take breaks from watching, reading, or listening to news stories, including social media.
  • Take care of your body. Take slow deep breaths, stretch, meditate, and exercise.
  • Make time to unwind and be kind to yourself.
  • Take a walk in nature.
  • Listen to your favorite music; dance.
  • Write your thoughts in a journal/notebook
  • Connect with positive people.
  • Reach out to a professional.

In addition, I offer instruction on self-hypnosis, EFT (tapping), meditation and breathing exercises to enhance your coaching and/or hypnotherapy sessions.

Some of the issues I work with:

  • Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ workshop
  • Insomnia
  • Stress management
  • Relaxation
  • Easing nervous tension
  • Feeling stuck
  • Overcoming phobias and fears
  • Pain management
  • Improved self-confidence
  • Personal and career development
  • Achieving success
  • Motivation
  • Career and business achievement
  • Weight management
  • Smoking cessation

There is no need to suffer alone. Call today for a free 30-minute consultation at 503-939-2269, or send an email to bela@belacoaching.com. I work with people in person in Beaverton, Oregon, as well as online. For those working with me, I offer a sliding scale that can fit anyone’s budget.


Next Monthly In-Person Support Group for Moms of Adult Children in Transition – July 27, 1-2:30 pm

Is your adult child struggling to launch or making poor decisions? Are you still overparenting?

Join us for “Journey Together: Moms Navigating Adult Children’s Transitions” – a supportive space for moms like you.

Date: Saturday, July 27, 1:00 PM – 2:30 PM PST
Location:
Beaverton, Oregon (at my home)

Cost: $20

RSVP:

  • Phone: 503-939-2269
  • Email: bela@belacoaching.com

Bela Friedman, certified life and energy coach, and certified clinical hypnotherapist.
Learn more: Bela Coaching

Self-Care Strategies for Moms of Adult Children Having Challenges

If you are a mom of an adult child who is struggling and/or making bad decisions, it’s important to prioritize your well-being. Here is a list of self-care strategies that can be beneficial:

  1. Set Boundaries:
    • Establish clear boundaries with your adult children to protect your emotional and mental health.
  2. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation:
    • Engage in mindfulness practices or meditation to stay present and reduce stress.
  3. Engage in Physical Activity:
    • Regular exercise, whether it’s walking, yoga, or any form of movement, can help alleviate stress and improve mood.
  4. Seek Social Support:
    • Connect with friends, family, or other supportive individuals. Sharing experiences and feelings can be very therapeutic.
  5. Pursue Hobbies and Interests:
    • Dedicate time to activities you enjoy or explore new hobbies to create a sense of fulfillment and joy.
  6. Practice Self-Compassion:
    • Be kind to yourself and avoid self-blame. Understand that you’re doing your best in challenging circumstances.
  7. Attend Therapy or Counseling:
    • Consider speaking with a life coach or therapist to process emotions, gain insights, and develop coping strategies.
  8. Journaling:
    • Write down your thoughts and feelings regularly. This can provide emotional release and clarity.
  9. Healthy Eating and Sleep Habits:
    • Maintain a balanced diet and ensure you get adequate sleep to support overall health and well-being.
  10. Set Realistic Expectations:
    • Recognize and accept that you cannot control your adult children’s decisions. Focus on what you can control.
  11. Learn and Educate Yourself:
    • Read books or attend workshops about parenting adult children to gain new perspectives and strategies.
  12. Engage in Relaxation Techniques:
    • Practice deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, or listen to calming music.
  13. Create a Support Network:
    • Join or form a support group where you can share experiences and receive support from others in similar situations.
  14. Practice Gratitude:
    • Keep a gratitude journal to remind yourself of positive aspects of your life.
  15. Limit Negative Influences:
    • Reduce exposure to negative news or social media that can increase anxiety or stress.
  16. Engage in Spiritual Practices:
    • If you are spiritual or religious, participate in activities that nurture your spiritual side, such as prayer or attending services.
  17. Take Breaks:
    • Give yourself permission to take breaks from caregiving or worrying about your children to recharge and relax.
  18. Professional Development:
    • Invest time in personal or professional growth. This can boost self-esteem and provide a sense of accomplishment.
  19. Volunteer:
    • Helping others can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment, and it can also be a way to shift focus from personal worries.
  1. Pamper Yourself:
    • Treat yourself to activities that make you feel good, such as a spa day, a new book, a favorite meal, or just taking a walk.

You should try different strategies and find what works best for you. It’s important to remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish but necessary for your overall well-being and ability to support your adult children effectively.

As a life and energy coach and hypnotherapist in Beaverton, Ore., I work with people online or in-person. I’m here to support and guide you on your journey with your adult children who are having struggles, or any challenges you may be going through. My specialties include stress management, building confidence and personal and professional development. Clients also learn to heal, restore and empower their energy heal blocks and let go of stuck energy.

Contact me today at bela@belacoaching.com or 503-939-2269 for a free consultation.

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Monthly In-Person Support Group for Moms of Adult Children in Transition June 15, 1-2:30 pm

If your adult child is experiencing a failure to launch or making poor decisions, you won’t want to miss the new monthly in-person support group meeting, “Journey Together: Moms Navigating Adult Children’s Transitions.”  

Date: Saturday, June 15, 1:00 pm – 2:30 pm

Cost: $20

Location: My home in Beaverton, Oregon (Contact me for address.)

Join us as we embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and connection. Through interactive discussions, reflective exercises, and creative activities, we will explore:

o Navigating the transition from active parenting to supporting your adult children’s independence.

o Cultivating self-care practices and nurturing your own passions and interests.

o Fostering healthy communication and boundaries with your adult children.

o Embracing change and finding joy in new opportunities for personal growth.

o Together, we will break through limitations, ignite our inner creativity, and support each other on this beautiful journey of motherhood and self-discovery.

Space is limited, so be sure to RSVP at your earliest convenience to secure your spot. Call me at 503-939-2269, or email me at bela@belacoaching.com.

If you are interested in joining, please answer the following questions and let me know what you are hoping to gain from this support group:

1. Briefly introduce yourself and share why you are interested in joining the group?

2. What are you hoping to gain from participating in this group?

3. What challenges are you currently facing in relation to your adult child’s independence?

4. Please let me know if there are other topics you would like to explore.

About Bela

As the facilitator of Journey Together: Moms Navigating Adult Children’s Transitions,” I am honored to bring my unique blend of expertise, personal experience, and genuine empathy to our supportive community.

With more than seven years of experience as a life and energy coach, coupled with my specialization in hypnotherapy and surgery coaching, I have dedicated myself to empowering individuals to overcome obstacles, unlock their inner potential, heal, and create positive transformations in their lives. My approach combines evidence-based techniques with intuitive guidance, fostering a safe and nurturing environment for personal growth and self-discovery.

As a mother of three adult children myself, I intimately understand the joys, challenges, and transitions that come with guiding our children into adulthood. My firsthand experience provides me with a deep empathy and insight into the unique journey we embark upon as mothers during this transformative phase of life.

Through our group, I am committed to leveraging my professional expertise and personal understanding to facilitate meaningful discussions, creative explorations, and supportive interactions. Together, we will delve into topics such as navigating change, fostering healthy relationships, and embracing our own growth and fulfillment.

I believe that by sharing our stories, supporting one another, and tapping into our innate creativity, we can break through limitations, cultivate resilience, and thrive as mothers and individuals. I am deeply passionate about guiding you on this empowering journey of self-discovery, and I look forward to walking alongside you as we break boundaries and embrace the beautiful possibilities that lie ahead.

For more information, contact me at 503-939-2269, or email me at bela@belacoaching.com.

Update: New Monthly In-Person Support Group for Mothers of Adult Children in Transition, May 25, 1-2pm

Is your adult child experiencing a failure to launch or making poor decisions? Have you been a helicopter parent and still overparenting?

If you are navigating the ever-evolving challenging journey of parenthood as your children venture into adulthood, and seeking a safe and supportive space to explore your own growth and creativity during this transformative phase of life, look no further.

I’m thrilled to invite you to the first in-person support group meeting, Journey Together: Moms Navigating Adult Children’s Transitions,” Contact me for the address and to RSVP at 503-939-2269 or bela@belacoaching.com.

  • Date: Saturday, May 25, 1:00 pm – 2:00 pm
  • Cost: $20
  • Location: My Home (Contact me for address)

Join us as we embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and connection. Through interactive discussions, reflective exercises, and creative activities, we’ll explore:

  • Navigating the transition from active parenting to supporting your adult children’s independence.
  • Cultivating self-care practices and nurturing your own passions and interests.
  • Fostering healthy communication and boundaries with your adult children.
  • Embracing change and finding joy in new opportunities for personal growth.
  • Together, we will break through limitations, ignite our inner creativity, and support each other on this beautiful journey of motherhood and self-discovery.

Space is limited, so be sure to RSVP at your earliest convenience to secure your spot. Call me at 503-939-2269, or email me at bela@belacoaching.com

If you are interested in joining, please answer the following questions and let me know what you are hoping to gain from this support group:

  1. Can you briefly introduce yourself and share why you are interested in joining the group?
  2. What are you hoping to gain from participating in this group?
  3. What challenges or difficulites are you currently facing in relation to your adult child’s independence?
  4. Please let me know if there are other topics you would like to explore.

About Bela

As the facilitator of Journey Together: Moms Navigating Adult Children’s Transitions,” I am honored to bring my unique blend of expertise, personal experience, and genuine empathy to our supportive community.

With more than seven years of experience as a life and energy coach, coupled with my specialization in hypnotherapy, NLP and surgery coaching, I have dedicated myself to empowering individuals to overcome obstacles, unlock their inner potential, and create positive transformations in their lives. My approach combines evidence-based techniques with intuitive guidance, fostering a safe and nurturing environment for personal growth and self-discovery.

As a mother of three adult children myself, I intimately understand the joys, challenges, and transitions that come with guiding our children into adulthood. My firsthand experience provides me with a deep empathy and insight into the unique journey we embark upon as mothers during this transformative phase of life.

Through our group, I am committed to leveraging my professional expertise and personal understanding to facilitate meaningful discussions, creative explorations, and supportive interactions. Together, we will delve into topics such as navigating change, fostering healthy relationships, and embracing our own growth and fulfillment.

I believe that by sharing our stories, supporting one another, and tapping into our innate creativity, we can break through limitations, cultivate resilience, and thrive as mothers and individuals.

I am deeply passionate about guiding you on this empowering journey of self-discovery, and I look forward to walking alongside you as we break boundaries and embrace the beautiful possibilities that lie ahead.

With warmth and understanding,

Bela Friedman

Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy

New Monthly In-Person Support Group for Mothers of Adult Children in Transition

Are you navigating the ever-evolving challenging journey of parenthood as your children venture into adulthood? Are you seeking a safe and supportive space to explore your own growth and creativity during this transformative phase of life?

Look no further — I am thrilled to invite you to our first support group meeting, “Journey Together: Moms Navigating Adult Children’s Transitions.”   

  • Date: Saturday, May 11, 1:00 pm – 2:00 pm
    • Cost: $20
    • Location: Beaverton, Oregon (Contact me for address.)

Join us as we embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and connection. Through interactive discussions, reflective exercises, and creative activities, we will explore:

  • Navigating the transition from active parenting to supporting your adult children’s independence.
    • Cultivating self-care practices and nurturing your own passions and interests.
    • Fostering healthy communication and boundaries with your adult children.
    • Embracing change and finding joy in new opportunities for personal growth.
    • Together, we will break through limitations, ignite our inner creativity, and support each other on this beautiful journey of motherhood and self-discovery.

Space is limited, so be sure to RSVP at your earliest convenience to secure your spot. Call me at 503-939-2269, or email me at bela@belacoaching.com .If you are interested in joining, please answer the following questions and let me know what you are hoping to gain from this support group:

1. Briefly introduce yourself and share why you are interested in joining the group?

2. What are you hoping to gain from participating in this group?

3. What challenges are you currently facing in relation to your adult child’s independence?

4. Please let me know if there are other topics you would like to explore.

About Bela

As the facilitator of Journey Together: Moms Navigating Adult Children’s Transitions,” I am honored to bring my unique blend of expertise, personal experience, and genuine empathy to our supportive community.

With more than seven years of experience as a life and energy coach, coupled with my specialization in hypnotherapy and surgery coaching, I have dedicated myself to empowering individuals to overcome obstacles, unlock their inner potential, heal, and create positive transformations in their lives. My approach combines evidence-based techniques with intuitive guidance, fostering a safe and nurturing environment for personal growth and self-discovery.

As a mother of three adult children myself, I intimately understand the joys, challenges, and transitions that come with guiding our children into adulthood. My firsthand experience provides me with a deep empathy and insight into the unique journey we embark upon as mothers during this transformative phase of life.

Through our group, I am committed to leveraging my professional expertise and personal understanding to facilitate meaningful discussions, creative explorations, and supportive interactions. Together, we will delve into topics such as navigating change, fostering healthy relationships, and embracing our own growth and fulfillment.

I believe that by sharing our stories, supporting one another, and tapping into our innate creativity, we can break through limitations, cultivate resilience, and thrive as mothers and individuals. I am deeply passionate about guiding you on this empowering journey of self-discovery, and I look forward to walking alongside you as we break boundaries and embrace the beautiful possibilities that lie ahead.

With warmth and understanding,

Bela Friedman, Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy

Websites: www.belacoaching.com; www.recoverfastersurgerycoach.com .

Cell: 503-939-2269

How to Raise Your Vibration

Are you interested in learning how to raise your vibration?

Understanding the concept of “vibration” and its significance in our lives can be a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation. While the idea of vibration may sound abstract or esoteric to some, it’s essentially a way to describe the energy we emit and attract, both consciously and unconsciously, through our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Imagine yourself as a vibrational being, constantly emitting and receiving energetic signals to and from the universe. Everything in the universe, including ourselves, is made up of energy vibrating at different frequencies. These vibrations create a sort of energetic resonance that influences our experiences, relationships, and overall well-being.

In simple terms, a high vibration corresponds to positive emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, while a low vibration aligns with negative ones. When we’re in a state of high vibration, we feel joy, love, gratitude, and abundance. Conversely, low vibration states are characterized by fear, anger, sadness, and scarcity.

Raising our vibration involves consciously shifting our thoughts, emotions, and actions to align with higher frequencies. This process isn’t about denying or suppressing negative emotions but rather acknowledging them and choosing to focus on more positive aspects of life. It’s about cultivating an attitude of gratitude, practicing self-love and compassion, and embracing a mindset of abundance and possibility.

There are various techniques and practices that can help us raise our vibration:

  1. Gratitude: Cultivating gratitude is one of the most effective ways to raise our vibration. By focusing on what we’re thankful for, we shift our perspective from lack to abundance, attracting more positive experiences into our lives.
  2. Mindfulness: Practicing mindfulness helps us become more aware of our thoughts and emotions, allowing us to observe them without judgment and choose more positive ones.
  3. Self-care: Taking care of ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally is crucial for maintaining a high vibration. This includes activities like exercise, meditation, spending time in nature, and engaging in hobbies that bring us joy.
  4. Positive affirmations: Affirmations are powerful tools for reprogramming our subconscious mind and shifting our beliefs to ones that support our highest good.
  5. Surrounding ourselves with positive influences: Spending time with uplifting people, consuming inspiring content, and creating a supportive environment can all help raise our vibration.
  6. Acts of kindness: When we extend kindness and compassion to others, we not only raise their vibration but also our own.
  7. Letting go of negativity: This involves releasing negative thoughts, limiting beliefs, and toxic relationships that no longer serve us.

By raising our vibration, we become more aligned with our true selves and the higher energies of the universe. This alignment allows us to manifest our desires more effortlessly, attract positive opportunities and relationships, and experience greater levels of joy, abundance, and fulfillment in our lives.

However, it’s important to remember that raising our vibration is an ongoing practice that requires commitment, self-awareness, and patience. It’s not about achieving a permanent state of bliss but rather learning to navigate life’s ups and downs with greater resilience and positivity.

As a life coach, I’m here to support and guide you on your journey of raising your vibration and creating the life you truly desire. Together, we can explore techniques and strategies tailored to your unique needs and circumstances, helping you cultivate a higher level of consciousness and unlock your full potential.

If you need help in raising your vibration, contact me at 503-939-2269 or bela@belacoaching.com for a free consultation.

Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy will help you learn to raise your vibration. Contact me at 503-939-2269 or by email at bela@belacoaching for a free consultation.

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