Bela is a certified life coach, certified clinical hypnotherapist, and author who works with individuals to ceeate long-term, sustainable life changes.
Happy Sunday! I’m thinking of you this morning and sending a special Sunday Love Note honoring Dr. Martin Luther King for inspiration, self-care and love for others:
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
If you can do one thing to celebrate Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., honoring his special day watch his speech, “I Have a Dream” by clicking on this link:
If this note resonates with you, please share it with someone you care about. And if you are having challenges letting go of your critical thinking, please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offer Zoom and in-person life coaching, relationship coaching and hypnotherapy sessions to meet your financial needs. I’m also certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ developed by Peggy Huddleston.
Contact me for a free 45-minute consultation at 503-939-2269 or bela@belacoaching.com.
Wishing you good health and a wonderful self-care Sunday.
Many of us believe we already do. But our actions say otherwise. From all of my life experiences and from the people that I’ve worked with individually, in workshops and in my Be Inspired Women’s Circles, I find that the only thing that truly heals our problems is to know how to love ourselves.
Louise Hay once said that when people learn how to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better in every way. It’s a simple premise, but I totally agree.
When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s astounding how their lives get better. They feel better. They look better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.
Are you willing to take a brief self-love challenge? Here are six ways you can learn to love yourself each day:
Be your own best friend. What does that look like to you?
See all of your magnificence and beauty–the pretty and not so pretty parts.
Embrace the amazing and unique person you are. There is only one you. Shine your light– only you can be who you really are.
Love all of yourself. This means also accepting your weaknesses and challenges.
Surround yourself with loving and positive people. No more toxic relationships.
Give forgiveness to yourself and others. You will feel much lighter.
Are there other ways you can show love to yourself? If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you learn to love yourself and make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com.
I hope you are having a peaceful and relaxing Sunday. In this Sunday Love Note I wish to send you many blessings:
“May you be blessed with good health, an abundance of joy, and the warmth of new friends. May good fortune and love always find you, and may your days be filled with positive energy and joyful experiences. Here’s to laughter, prosperity, and all the beautiful moments that make life special.”
If you are having challenges letting go of your critical thinking, please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offer Zoom and in-person life coaching, relationship coaching and hypnotherapy sessions to meet your financial needs. I’m also certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ developed by Peggy Huddleston.
Contact me for a free 45-minute consultation at 503-939-2269 or bela@belacoaching.com.
Wishing you good health and a wonderful self-care Sunday.
Sending love and gratitude, With heartfelt appreciation, Bela
May this holiday season bring you good health, peace, love, and joy. I hope you are surrounded by the warmth of family and friends, and that you find moments of reflection and inspiration for the new year ahead.
Thanksgiving is a time to gather with loved ones, celebrate gratitude, and enjoy a delicious meal. However, it can also bring together people with vastly different viewpoints, which may lead to tensions or disagreements. Here are some tips on how to handle these potential triggers and keep the holiday festive and harmonious.
Practice Empathy and Active Listening When differences arise, practice empathy. Try to understand where the other person is coming from. Active listening—really hearing what the other person is saying without immediately formulating a response—can go a long way in defusing tension.
Set Boundaries Early Before the gathering, set clear boundaries with yourself and others. Decide which topics are off-limits, such as politics or religion, and communicate these boundaries to your family and friends if needed. It’s perfectly okay to say, “Let’s focus on what we’re thankful for and save this discussion for another time.”
Stay Calm and Respectful If a conversation starts to heat up, take a deep breath and stay calm. Keeping your tone respectful and avoiding personal attacks helps maintain a constructive dialogue. If necessary, gracefully change the subject to something neutral.
Find Common Ground Focus on what unites you rather than what divides you. Shared memories, common interests, or mutual respect can be great conversation anchors. Highlighting positive connections can help steer conversations away from conflict.
Take Breaks if Needed It’s okay to step away if you feel overwhelmed. Take a walk, spend some time with the kids, or simply find a quiet space to regroup. Giving yourself a moment to breathe can make a big difference in your ability to handle stressful situations.
Remember the Purpose of Thanksgiving Ultimately, Thanksgiving is about gratitude and togetherness. Remind yourself of this purpose and strive to foster a loving and inclusive environment. Focus on the joy of being together and the blessings in your life. By approaching Thanksgiving with empathy, clear boundaries, and a focus on the positive, you can navigate tricky interactions and ensure a more enjoyable holiday for everyone.
To learn more about how I can help you make a positive change in your life, contact me for a free 30-minute consultation. You can call me at 503-939-2269 or email bela@belacoaching.com. Wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving filled with joy and gratitude
Feeling overwhelmed by election news? You’re not alone. This election season, it’s natural to feel a range of emotions—anxiety, hope, and for many of us frustration. To help you find balance and stay grounded, here are 10 tips that can help you prioritize your well-being and embrace self-care, especially when news cycles feel endless.
1. Breathe Deeply to Reset Your Nervous System – When anxiety starts to build, try sitting or lying down and taking at least 10 slow, deep breaths. Inhale through your nose for a count of four, hold briefly, and exhale gently through your mouth for a count of six. Deep breathing can signal your body to relax, slowing the heart rate and calming the mind.
2. Set Boundaries with News Consumption – Choose specific times of day to check the news and avoid reading updates first thing in the morning or right before bed. If social media and news apps make it hard to resist checking, consider logging out temporarily or even deleting apps to create a bit of distance.
3. Use Meditation to Find Calm in Chaos -Practicing meditation can help quiet the noise, whether it’s 5 minutes of focused breathing or a guided meditation. Apps like Calm, Headspace, or Insight Timer can be helpful if you’re new to meditation. This practice can keep you centered, especially when everything around feels uncertain.
4. Listen to Music That Uplifts or Grounds You –Create a playlist with songs that lift your spirits or help you relax. Whether it’s classical, jazz, or your favorite upbeat tunes, music can be a simple yet powerful tool to shift your mood.
5. Show Compassion—To Yourself and Others – Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling without judgment. Practice kindness, both towards yourself and others. Self-compassion is essential; it reminds you that it’s okay to pause, rest, and take time to process.
6. Stay Active, Stay Hydrated -Physical movement, even a short walk, can work wonders for your mental state. Aim to get outside or do simple exercises indoors. Remember to stay hydrated too—dehydration can impact mood and focus.
7. Seek Nature for a Refreshing Break – Stepping outside to connect with nature can help ground you. Go for a walk and take in the beauty around you, especially during the vibrant fall season. Observe the colors, sounds, and textures; let the experience fill your senses and bring a sense of peace.
8. Keep a Journal to Process and Express Yourself – Writing can be a powerful way to process emotions. Spend a few minutes each day jotting down how you’re feeling, what’s on your mind, and what you’re grateful for. Writing helps you process emotions, which can lighten the weight of stress.
9. Focus on What You Can Control – Accepting what you cannot control can be freeing. Direct your energy toward things you can influence, whether that’s helping a loved one, improving a skill, or taking a small action that aligns with your values.
10. Vote to Empower Yourself – Voting is one of the most tangible ways to impact your community and voice your values. When you vote, you’re taking a stand and shaping the future. Know that your vote matters.
Consider sharing these tips with someone who might benefit from a bit of support. Self-care isn’t just for you; it’s a message of resilience and well-being that can help lift others too. Make this election season an opportunity to practice kindness, gratitude, and connection.
Make this your special self-care week! For more information on how you can cope with election stress and self-care, contact Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy at bela@belacoaching.com, or call 503-939-2269.
In today’s polarized world, political differences can often strain even the closest relationships. Political arguments can leave you upset and frustrated. Here are some strategies anyone can use to maintain peace while respecting each other’s views.
Set Boundaries: It is essential to establish clear boundaries around political discussions. Politely but firmly, let your friend or loved one know that you value your relationship more than political debates and would prefer to avoid those topics.
Practice Active Listening: When political discussions do arise, focus on listening to understand rather than respond. This approach can reduce the intensity of arguments and foster more constructive conversations.
Agree to Disagree: It’s okay to acknowledge that you have different views. Agreeing to disagree without trying to change each other’s minds can help maintain harmony.
Focus on Common Ground: Find topics that you both enjoy discussing, such as family, hobbies, or other shared interests. Strengthening your relationship in other areas can help bridge the gap created by political differences.
Manage Emotional Triggers: Stay calm during conversations by practicing deep breathing or mindfulness techniques. This can prevent emotions from escalating and help you maintain control.
Communicate Respectfully: Use “I” statements to express your feelings (e.g., “I feel upset when we argue about politics”) rather than blaming or accusing. This keeps the conversation respectful and more productive.
Seek Support: Remember, you’re not alone. Sharing your experiences in a support group can provide comfort, understanding, and advice from others who face similar challenges.
By applying these strategies, it’s possible to navigate political differences with respect and understanding, keeping your relationships strong even when your views don’t align.
For more information on how you can maintain peace and respect in these polarized and crazy times, contact Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy at bela@belacoaching or call 503-939-2269.
A good night’s sleep is crucial for maintaining both mental and physical health. Sleep is not just a time for rest but a vital period during which the body and mind rejuvenate, repair, and prepare for the challenges of the next day.
Here’s why quality sleep is so important:
Mental Clarity and Focus: A good night’s sleep enhances cognitive functions such as memory, concentration, and problem-solving. Lack of sleep can lead to confusion, forgetfulness, and difficulty in making decisions.
Emotional Balance: Sleep helps regulate emotions, making it easier to manage stress, anxiety, and mood swings. Poor sleep can exacerbate feelings of irritability and even contribute to depression.
Physical Health: Quality sleep supports the immune system, reduces the risk of chronic illnesses like heart disease and diabetes, and promotes faster recovery from illness or injury.
How Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy Can Help You:
At Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy, we understand the profound impact that sleep has on overall well-being. Our tailored approach can help you achieve the restorative sleep your body and mind need. Here’s how we can assist:
Personalized Coaching: We work with you to identify and address the root causes of your sleep issues, whether they stem from stress, anxiety, or lifestyle habits. Together, we’ll develop a plan that promotes better sleep hygiene and overall wellness.
Hypnotherapy for Relaxation: Through guided hypnotherapy sessions, we help you relax deeply, release tension, and quiet the mind, paving the way for a peaceful night’s sleep. This natural, drug-free approach can significantly improve the quality of your sleep.
Ongoing Support: We provide continuous support and tools to help you maintain healthy sleep patterns. Our goal is to empower you to enjoy the benefits of regular, restful sleep and wake up feeling refreshed and ready to take on the day.
For more information on how you can get a better night’s sleep, contact Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy at bela@belacoaching or call 503-939-2269.
Balancing between helping and enabling adult children can be challenging. Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy offers guidelines to help distinguish between the two:
Helping
Providing Support and Encouragement: Offer emotional support and encouragement for their goals and efforts.
Teaching Skills: Help them learn skills that will foster independence, such as budgeting, cooking, or job searching.
Setting Boundaries: Clearly define what kind of help you are willing to provide and stick to those boundaries.
Encouraging Responsibility: Support them in taking responsibility for their actions and decisions.
Offering Guidance: Provide advice and guidance when asked, but let them make their own decisions.
Providing Temporary Financial Assistance: If necessary, offer short-term financial help with a clear plan for repayment or steps towards self-sufficiency.
Enabling
Removing Consequences: Constantly bailing them out of difficult situations or protecting them from the consequences of their actions.
Over-involvement: Taking over their responsibilities or making decisions for them.
Unconditional Financial Support: Providing ongoing financial support without any expectations or plans for them to become independent.
Ignoring Problems: Overlooking or denying issues such as substance abuse, lack of motivation, or other harmful behaviors.
Making Excuses: Justifying their lack of effort or poor decisions instead of encouraging them to improve.
Sacrificing Your Well-being: Neglecting your own needs and well-being to continually support them.
Key Considerations
Assess Their Needs vs. Wants: Determine if the support is genuinely necessary for their well-being or if it is a want that they should be managing on their own.
Encourage Problem-Solving: Instead of solving problems for them, encourage them to think through and find solutions.
Promote Independence: Aim to help them develop the skills and confidence needed to become independent.
Set Clear Expectations: Communicate your expectations clearly and consistently regarding their progress towards independence.
Seek Professional Guidance: If you are unsure, consider seeking advice from a life coach, therapist or counselor to navigate the balance between helping and enabling.
By focusing on empowerment and fostering independence, you can support your adult children effectively without enabling dependency.
If you are having issues with your adult child, or letting go of critical thoughts, please reach out to me. I give free consultations and offer Zoom and in-person life and energy coaching, relationship coaching, group coaching and much more to meet your financial needs. I’m also certified in the Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster™ developed by Peggy Huddleston. Contact me for a free consultation at 503-939-2269 or bela@belacoaching.com.
There are many ways Bela Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy in Beaverton, Oregon can help you learn to release the stress you are experiencing and help boost your mood today.
I combine the practice of life and energy coaching, hypnotherapy, guided visualization, EFT (tapping) and other tools that can empower individuals with remarkable results by engaging both the conscious and unconscious minds. I will identify the resources you need to help you overcome the stress.
If you need help right away here are ways to cope with stress today:
Take breaks from watching, reading, or listening to news stories, including social media.
Take care of your body. Take slow deep breaths, stretch, meditate, and exercise.
Make time to unwind and be kind to yourself.
Take a walk in nature.
Listen to your favorite music; dance.
Write your thoughts in a journal/notebook
Connect with positive people.
Reach out to a professional.
In addition, I offer instruction on self-hypnosis, EFT (tapping), meditation and breathing exercises to enhance your coaching and/or hypnotherapy sessions.
There is no need to suffer alone. Call today for a free 30-minute consultation at 503-939-2269, or send an email to bela@belacoaching.com. I work with people in person in Beaverton, Oregon, as well as online. For those working with me, I offer a sliding scale that can fit anyone’s budget.
