The Mystics Realm: Mind/Body Techniques for Healing, Recovery, and Life Changes

Don’t miss Bela’s interview with the two lovely hosts of The Mystics Realm podcast recently, Ginger Ross and Trina Krug. She was asked to discuss her work in Mind Body Techniques for Healing, Recovery, and Life Changes and also give her perspective on her work as a life coach, hypnotherapist, and her unique view on preparing for surgery, healing faster, and recovery with less pain meds as The Surgery Coach. Listen to Episode 20 – Mind Body Techniques for Healing, Recovery, and Life Changes here.

Enjoy!

Learning to Love Yourself

From all of my life experiences and from the people that I’ve worked with individually, in workshops and in my Be Inspired Women’s Circles, I find that the only thing that truly heals our problems is to know how to love ourselves.

Louise Hay once said that when people learn how to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better in every way.  It’s a simple premise,and I totally agree.

When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s astounding how their lives get better. They feel better. They look better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.

Are you willing to take a brief self-love challenge?  Here are six ways you can learn to love yourself each day:

  1. Be your own best friend.  What does that look like to you?
  2. See all of your magnificence and beauty–the pretty and not so pretty parts.
  3. Embrace the amazing and unique person you are.  There is only one you.
  4. Love all of yourself.  This means also accepting your weaknesses and challenges.
  5. Surround yourself with loving and positive people. No more toxic relationships.
  6. Give forgiveness to yourself and others. You will feel much lighter.

Are there other ways you can show love to yourself?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help you learn to love yourself and make long term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Reclaiming Your Mojo

Many of us are feeling anxious and depleted.   Anxious about our country struggling with crazy politics, a divided country, the war in Ukraine, covid still effecting us, economic crisis, violence, social and racial injustices, and more.  It is a lot to deal with. But one thing is certain: We have to learn to live together in love, peace and harmony.

And by feeling anxious, we often don’t feel like ourselves. Many of us feel like we’ve lost something. And some call this “Losing your mojo.” 

What is mojo? It’s a word that is derived from African languages and relates to magic and spells to generate luck and power. Today, the word mojo still refers to a source of vigor, energy, sexual potency and power.

Have you ever lost your mojo? If you are feeling depleted, overwhelmed, overworked, stressed-out, tired, bored or lethargic, 

You can begin to feel more energy and enthusiasm about yourself and all the world has to offer just by making some small life changes that will release the magic of your mojo.

I know what it’s like to lose mojo, but I’ve been able to reclaim it again and again: Living in a failed marriage, during a separation, as a single mom, financial crisis, being “laid off” from a job I needed but detested, losing my parents, recovering from a serious injury, surgeries.  The list goes on and on, but the good news is that I’ve always been able to reclaim my mojo.  And so can you!

Here are five action steps to help you reclaim your mojo when you feel that it’s lost:

  1. Address your stress and get unstuck.  If you feel overwhelmed or just stuck, you can lighten your load and be aware of what is causing you stress. Journaling is a great way to address the source of your stress. Write at least a paragraph on how you’d like your life to change, and believe it – and your mojo will show up.
  2. Stay away from negativity. If you are serious about getting back on track you have to stay away from negativity. This includes toxic and negative people and negative talk.  Keeping a gratitude journal will do wonders for your attitude.
  3. Have fun. Recall the things you did when you were younger that gave you joy.  Grab a pen and paper and write down the fun things you did and circle the things that you’d like to do again.  And start doing them!
  4. Start with baby steps. It’s easy to be overwhelmed. But one small step can help restore your confidence. With one step at a time you can conquer the unconquerable.
  5. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. Sometimes the simple act of asking for help from a friend, coach or counselor can be the boost you need for getting your mojo back. Speaking to someone can help you remember that everyone needs help from time to time and that no one can do it alone.

Can you think of more ways to get your mojo back?

If you are interested in learning how life coaching and hypnotherapy can help get your mojo back and make long-term, positive changes in your life, please contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Also, visit my website at www.belacoaching.com.

Ten Tips for Dealing with Hard Times

Many of us are having a hard time with all that’s been going on in the world – on top of the Covid crisis that we’ve had to deal with for the past two years. Even with all the tools I have, I find myself very sad, and in despair at times, just like everyone else. My parents were Holocaust survivors from Ukraine, and seeing what’s happening is like reliving what they went through.

I thought I’d share 10 tips that I offer clients, as well as myself, that can help anyone get off the roller coaster of sadness:

  1. If you are feeling anxious, sit or lie down and take at least 10 slow deep breaths, in through your nose, and slowly out through your mouth.
  2. Limit your news intake. Take a break from social media, TV and/or radio news and get active.
  3. Take action! This can be done by donating money or by sitting quietly to say a quick prayer or send energy to those in need. (I often asked my loved ones who have passed to the other side to use whatever abilities they have to find and help those who are most in need and to offer them healing, comfort, and relief. This feels so good to me and helps me let go when everything feels beyond my control.)
  4. Listen to your favorite music. Get up and dance.
  5. Practice compassion and self-care.
  6. Keep your body moving and exercise.
  7. Drink plenty of water.
  8. Focus on nature; go for walks and enjoy the beautiful changing spring season with its magnificent colorful flowers and clean brisk air.
  9. Keep a journal/notebook and write down your feelings; write at least three things you are grateful for. Also write what brings you joy.
  10. Focus on things you can control — and let go of things you can’t.

I hope these tips are helpful for you too.

How to Nurture Your Creativity.

A few months ago, I sent an email to my Be Inspired Women’s Circle asking what sort of topics they’d like to take part in? One reply I received was “Different Ways to Nurture Creativity.”  I started thinking about it.

If you are like the average adult experiencing the pandemic, you may be binge watching movies on Netflix and other formats, and have become a little less creative. But I want to assure you, your creativity isn’t gone — it just may be out of practice.

When we watch small children – or if we can remember ourselves as small children, we know that they have no problem being creative: They use their imagination to make up stories and joyfully can go from one art project to another without hesitation. As we grow older, we have more and more responsibilities and become more serious. And somehow, many of us lose that creative part of us. But we can nurture our creativity in different ways and nurture our way back to having creativity be part of our daily lives.

Here is a great quote about nurturing our creativity as adults:

“Creativity is a powerful part of personal and professional growth for everyone, even for non-artists. By infusing our days with more creativity, we set a foundation for innovative thinking and brilliant collaboration. More of that can only be a good thing.”

Chad Halverson, founder and CEO of When I Work, an employee scheduling app that more than 30,000 businesses rely on.

Here are some great tips on how to nurture your creativity:

What do you do to nurture your own creativity? Take some time to write about it – or how you would like to start nurturing your creativity.

Tips:

  • Allow yourself 5 minutes of quiet journaling to write your answers.
  • Don’t analyze, just write. Or, you can make lists.

Helpful hints:

  1. To help you, just for a moment, close your eyes and think back to your childhood, or when you were a teen. What creative things did you like to do?

Here are some great tips on how to nurture your creativity:

If you are yearning to be creative and don’t know where to start, you may be stuck, like so many of us experiencing issues with fear, stress, lack of confidence, frustration, that pesky inner critic or Covid-19. I can help, so please reach out to me. I offer free telephone consultations and offer Zoom and phone coaching as well as hypnotherapy sessions.  You don’t have to suffer alone. You can reach me from my website at https://belacoaching.com/contact or by phone at 503-848-3640.

Join Me in 2021 Writing Workshops

Dear Be Inspired Community,

I’m excited to announce that I’ll be offering fun and magical writing workshops on Zoom.  My goal is to offer a creative release for the tensions we’ve all been feeling this past year through writing and journaling workshops.

My Writing Story

I’ve always loved writing. I’ve kept journals for most of my life. Journal writing has helped me in a multitude of transformational ways: meeting life’s challenges, self-discovery, creativity, inspiration, gratitude, writing gutsy or angry letters that I never sent. In my darkest and most challenging times my journal has often been my trusted best friend where I could cry and pour out my deepest, heartfelt feelings and thoughts when I was too afraid or embarrassed to tell a human friend. In my happiest times my journal was a place where I could release my delight in many ways.  Writing has been my escape, my muse, my self-care, my creativity and my work…and many times my challenge.  But in the end, my comfort and joy.

My professional writing experience began as a newspaper reporter and freelance writer in Los Angeles. I also wrote for a variety of business clients in my public relations business for almost 40 years. Most recently I collaborated and published a book with two other life coaches, Lessons from a Fall, Three Powerful Women and Their Stories of Transformation.

I love to write and I know you will too!

Your Time to Write Workshop

Thursday, Feb. 11, 10 am Pacific Time; $25

Thursday, Feb.18, 1 pm Pacific Time; $25

I hope that you can join me in February for two 75-minute writing workshops that will give you a chance to feel, process and articulate. You can sign up for one or both sessions and use this time for personal journaling, creative projects you’ve been wanting to work on or any other writing you do in your life or work.

I’ll provide the sparks of inspiration and support to get the words flowing for your writing sessions.

Group journaling is magical and powerful.  It will open you up to connect with your inner wisdom and higher self.

What you need:

  • A notebook or journal, a good working pen, a comfortable place to write
  • A refreshing beverage to keep you hydrated
  • Put your inner critic aside, and give yourself permission not to be perfect.

l provide :

  • Unique journal prompts
  • A brief guided meditation
  • A sacred Zoom space

* To register contact me at bela@belacoaching.com. Payments can be made on PayPal, by credit card or check. Just let me know how you’d like to pay. There will be no refunds.

Writing workshops coming soon – Dates to be announced.

  • Journaling for Self-Care
  • Wine and Writing Evening

I’m looking forward to sharing these writing sessions with you. Let me know if you have any questions.

Warm wishes,

Bela Friedman

What Makes Your Heart Sing?

Many people I’ve talked to lately are feeling anxious and depleted.  Anxious and depleted about our country struggling with an ongoing pandemic, a divided country, an economic crisis, violence, social and racial injustice, protests and more. But to be a healthy person it’s important to boost your energy from within, helping life balance and taking care of ourselves, our families as well as our values.

I recently watched an inspiring Ted Talk with Chris Hill, a chef, and the talk was called What Makes Your Heart Sing? He left his profession in marketing because he was looking for more fulfillment in his life. And he loved cooking. But one day after a difficult day at the restaurant, he was frustrated and locked himself in a room and wrote for eight hours. He wrote a long blog about his inspiration of being a chef and what’s important in life and posted it. He eventually had over 100,000 people reading his blog daily and received hundreds of emails. In short, he realized that what makes his heart sing is connecting with others and when people around him are happy. He also talked about his mother who died when he was 14, she fought a five-year battle with Cancer. She was always positive and made a huge impact on his life. Her favorite quote was “Life is 10 percent of what happens to you and 90 per cent of how your respond to it. “He asks, how are you showing up to life, to your family, to your community, to the world?

I’d like to ask you, what makes your heart sing?  

It’s not difficult, but If you have trouble thinking of what makes your heart sing, here is a short exercise the International Coaching Federation suggests that can help:

  • Allow yourself 10 minutes of quiet journaling to write your answers.
  • Don’t analyze, just write.
  • Feel free to add extra things to your list that come up in the days and weeks ahead.

Helpful Hints:

  • To help you, just for a moment, close your eyes and think back to your childhood. What were you doing when you were having most fun?
  • Consider your senses: Sight, hearing, touch/feeling, smell and taste. You could come up with one joy for each.
  • Examples could include watching children or dogs/cats playing, hiking a mountain, cooking, telling someone you love them, fresh sheets on your bed …or something completely different. Whatever it is, it is unique to you.
  • Here are a few questions to consider: What do you notice as you review your list? What common themes, powerful messages or surprises do you see? Why do you think you don’t do these more often?

  • Perhaps you’re already thinking of ways you can bring some of these ideas into your life.

  • Now, write one specific action you will take to bring more joy into your life.

Do you need help with making your heart sing?

If you are experiencing issues with fear, stress, lack of confidence, that pesky inner critic or Covid-19, please reach out to me. I offer free telephone consultations and offering Zoom and phone coaching as well as hypnotherapy sessions.  You don’t have to suffer alone. You can reach me from my website at https://belacoaching.com/contact/ or by phone at 503-848-3640.

Sunday Love Notes Dec 20: Letting Your Light Shine Brightly Within

Dear Beautiful Be Inspired Community,

With Christmas and New Year’s just around the corner, I hope that you are taking time for self-care.  Here is my special love note to you.

    “Let your light shine so brightly within, that others can see their way out of the dark.” – Unknown

Wishing you all a wonderful Sunday and a week filled with health, love, joy, self-care and inspiration.  Have a happy holiday!

Sending love and light,

Bela

Learning To Let My Light Shine

I learned to let my light shine by being true to myself.

But it took so many years to find that light and the truth of my soul.

The light that allowed me to marry someone I loved and who loved me.

I let my light shine by leaving Los Angeles and moving to Oregon with my children and new husband not knowing a soul when I arrived.

Being true to myself by leaving my public relations business after more than 30 years of work that no longer brought me joy.

I let my light shine by following my spiritual journey that led me to discover a new field that I love.

Now my light shines brightly in the work I do to inspire others to shine their lights brightly as well.

My light shines in my adult children and the beautiful bright eyes, laughter and love of my grandchildren.

That light that will be passed on and touch others in ways no one yet knows and will burn brightly for generations to come hopefully in a world of truth, justice and peace.

It took many years, but I had to reach deep into my soul to find my light, my truth.

It was difficult taking off the mask of happiness, the mask that was a lie so many years ago…

But now, years later I’m happy that I did, because life is fulfilling, precious and full.

Being my true self and knowing that I’ve allowed myself to blossom and my spiritual light to shine has helped so many others do the same.

Are you allowing your light to shine?

If you are experiencing issues with fear, stress, lack of confidence, that pesky inner critic or Covid-19, please reach out to me. I offer free telephone consultations and offering Zoom and phone coaching as well as hypnotherapy sessions.  You don’t have to suffer alone. You can reach me from my website at https://belacoaching.com/contact/ or by phone at 503-848-3640.